Author: dr. Ni Wayan Kertiasih, Sp.KJ
When our children did something wrong, the children didn’t understand yet that what should they said later. Indeed, they didn’t know that they doing something wrong. So, teaching the children for apologize if they did something wrong is important for parents. Teaching the children to apologize can be start since early stage. Even though the children still young, it doesn’t mean the children can did everything that they want. If we just ignored that, the children never knew that they did something wrong and also they believed what they did actually are fine. As parents, we also teaching the children about honesty when they learned to apologizing. This due to the children learn to acknowledge their fault.
Take the responsibility is also important features that should be had by everybody. So this characteristic need to be learned by the children. Teaching the children to apologize also teach the children about this responsibility. They need to understand that if they did something wrong, they should take an action for that. The simplest way for example is asking for forgiveness.
The children will facing some condition that make someone angry, sad, disappointed toward their behavior. When the children learn to apologize, they also learned to ameliorate their relationship with others, included their friends or family. In addition, there are some benefits that children can get from having good relationships with other people, for example increasing happiness, reducing their stress and also improve their self esteem.
By teaching your children to apologize to anyone, parents also teaches them about what it means to respecting and tolerating each other. So, it will be embedded in the children that no one can be treated worse or better, and that every human being has the same right to be respected. This is certainly a very important provision for their life later. Teaching children to apologize is not easy. However, if done as early as possible, your little one will have this good habit and be able to maintain it until they become an adult. They will also learn not to repeat the same mistakes in the future.
Even though apologizing is very important, parents should not force your children to do it. Forcing a child to apologize is the same as teaching them to tell lies, especially if they doesn’t understand the mistake they made. Also, don’t make it a habit for your children to use the word sorry for every problem he goes through. Teach them that they only needs to apologize when he is really wrong. That is why instilling values regarding right and wrong is also important to do. If it is difficult to teach children to apologize or are worried about children’s attitudes that tend to be selfish, you can consult to a psychologist or psychiatrist who specializes in dealing with children’s problems, to get solutions and tricks regarding parenting children with tough characters.
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